This is my column from yesterday’s Greenville News (9 March, 2009)
I have met a lot of slaves. Not the kind who wear shackles and work in the fields. That kind of slavery is, thankfully, a thing of the past. But slaves remain. We call ourselves free. We believe we are free, because we are technological and comfortable. We convince ourselves of the grandeur of our freedom when we go to the polls, when we engage in activism. We worship at the altar of freedom on discussion forums, where no cruel remark, no shallow thought, no profane comment is ever considered unacceptable.
But this is still a nation of slaves. I see many as patients. I’m not talking about those people held against their will. Children of abusive, addicted parents are not slaves, but physical and emotional prisoners, just like adult victims of abuse.
However, slavery abounds. Some are slaves to incapacity. For them, the Holy Grail of this earthly existence is the disability check. Mind you, I’ve met plenty of men and women who need and deserve their disability payments. I’m happy to help them with my tax dollars.
But I have met far too many who neither need nor deserve disability. Some of them don’t even know why they get the hallowed check, and others can do everything but work; hunt, four-wheel, fight, or dozens of activities that would suggest the ability to hold a job. Who is the slave? The one who refuses to work or the tax-payer who supports his lifestyle?
Others are slaves to illness. Not truly ill, certainly not seriously ill, they shop for diseases like others shop for cars or furniture. They carry garbage bags and shoe-boxes full of medications they don’t need, many of which are simply to counteract the side-effects of other medications. They are slaves to the numbness of pills, some taking three, four, five or more medications that leave them sedated day and night; perpetually lingering in the hazy world of near-coma, where everyone around them has to protect and provide for them.
Physicians, well-meaning, endlessly badgered or sometimes just greedy, add pill on top of pill because their patients complain until they are simply too sleepy to complain anymore. Their families sit by their beds and electric scooters with red, tear-filled eyes, numb themselves. They care for their zombies, but receive no reciprocity, no gratitude, no affection. They, too, are slaves to the slaves.
But it goes on. There are slaves to communication. They e-mail and blog, text, call and Twitter every aspect of their daily lives. ‘I’m sitting in the waiting room. I’m watching the doctor. I’m bored. I’m happy. I heard this gossip, I saw that person.’ This stream of consciousness communication sends emptiness out to the world, in hopes that something will return to fill it. I think, rather, they are slaves to loneliness. But masses of electronic signals cannot cure loneliness; only true connection can do that.
Men and women are also slaves to sex. Sexual imagery is everywhere. The age of first contact with pornography is somewhere below 12. We love salacious, lewd photos and videos. But it isn’t just the pictures. Humans are slaves to sexuality without boundaries. Sexually transmitted diseases are rampant; young people contract them and may suffer for their entire lives, or contracting HIV, may die too soon. Inappropriate sexual expression and activity destroys families and careers. Is sex a natural desire? Indeed it is a great gift from the Divine. But so is food. One obsessed with too much food becomes obese. But we embrace sexual license as something high and holy. Sexual liberty, unchecked, leads to sexual slavery and suffering.
We are slaves to things, and become unhappy without the right phone, computer, car, clothes, shoes, vacation or house. The mortgage crisis illustrates this phenomenon with rare clarity.
We are slaves to ideology, and are so fearful of any threat to our opinion that many cannot discuss politics without flying into a rage of obscenity. And our intelligentsia, our body politic, our academy is so enslaved to conformity that the word ‘diversity’ is laughable. We are slaves to entertainment, fitness and fashion. We are slaves to the idea of prosperity; and equally enslaved to the lie that prosperity represents greed and inequity.
Do we really desire freedom? And if so, who will ever set us free? Who will free the captives, or release the prisoners from their darkness? There was one. But alas, we have proclaimed our freedom from him as well.
I just read the most incredible book titled “The Last Addiction” by Sharon Hersch. It is one of the most incredible books on the importance of spiritually breaking free from addiction! It’s very informative and eye opening! I highly recommend it! 😀
I hate to admit it but I troll a little on the fibro online support groups and the common thread is a focus on every little twinge in their bodies. I think some of these support commmunities exacerbate the illnesses not help them. I was also struck by your paragraph about having the right things. In a strange way, I’m glad this economic mess happened…I needed a correction in my life and it wasn’t economic.
Nancy R
15 years ago
I went back to the beginning of this site and found out it was called and “uncatagorized” webpage. HOW RIDICULOUS! AND ‘midwest woman’ how do you know what a TWINGE is in those people’s bodies? I am a chronic pain patient that HAPPENED to end up here, but not because of chronic pain. I have 4 diagnosed diseases listed under NORD (look it up) and although I do not subscribe to online support groups, they obviously help some poeple. Who are you to judge and NO you are not being discerning. I am so glad for your heppiness that this… Read more »
Thanks for the recommendations shared in your blog. Yet another thing I would like to say is that weight-loss is not all about going on a celebrity diet and trying to get rid of as much weight as possible in a few days. The most effective way to burn fat is by acquiring it bit by bit and following some basic points which can help you to make the most from a attempt to drop some weight. You may realize and already be following some of these tips, yet reinforcing understanding never affects.
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Dr. Leap,
This is a great post!
I just read the most incredible book titled “The Last Addiction” by Sharon Hersch. It is one of the most incredible books on the importance of spiritually breaking free from addiction! It’s very informative and eye opening! I highly recommend it! 😀
I hate to admit it but I troll a little on the fibro online support groups and the common thread is a focus on every little twinge in their bodies. I think some of these support commmunities exacerbate the illnesses not help them. I was also struck by your paragraph about having the right things. In a strange way, I’m glad this economic mess happened…I needed a correction in my life and it wasn’t economic.
I went back to the beginning of this site and found out it was called and “uncatagorized” webpage. HOW RIDICULOUS! AND ‘midwest woman’ how do you know what a TWINGE is in those people’s bodies? I am a chronic pain patient that HAPPENED to end up here, but not because of chronic pain. I have 4 diagnosed diseases listed under NORD (look it up) and although I do not subscribe to online support groups, they obviously help some poeple. Who are you to judge and NO you are not being discerning. I am so glad for your heppiness that this… Read more »
@wiifan222 You gotta see southpark to get the joke.
Thanks for the recommendations shared in your blog. Yet another thing I would like to say is that weight-loss is not all about going on a celebrity diet and trying to get rid of as much weight as possible in a few days. The most effective way to burn fat is by acquiring it bit by bit and following some basic points which can help you to make the most from a attempt to drop some weight. You may realize and already be following some of these tips, yet reinforcing understanding never affects.
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